The bees and the birds – how to talk to children
One day it comes, without any preparation, and suddenly the children begin to express their interest in their genitals, play with them and start asking different questions.
In the modern age, when exposure to sexuality is very high, parents are required to talk to children at a relatively early stage about sexuality, relationships, and love.
How to do it right and instill in your child a sense of security? All in the following article.
Speak openly about the differences between the sexes
The boys have a penis and the girls have a vagina and these are some of the differences between the two sexes.
Direct and clear reading of the name of the limb distributes the veil of mystery and mystery around the names of “affection,” which is commonly given to the genitals.
It is recommended to initiate home-based educational meetings around textbooks that deal with the human body and describe the child to each and every organ.
When the child is proactively asking about the penis, be happy about it, introduce the subject and listen to your child.
The children are taught to set limits
Creating an open discourse on sexual organs and sexuality touches on a very important issue. The subject of individual liberty versus the world. Children, especially in early childhood, are helpless.
Even if they know how to speak, they may not be able to transcribe or distinguish between the “too nice” behavior of a stranger who comes to “embrace” or “kiss” and mean anything else.
Vulnerable children will feel “something is wrong,” but will they feel comfortable telling it to you?
Taking an open and responsible discourse on this important issue will give children tools to deal with “too nice” strangers.
Teach the children that you can say no
That if someone wants to hug them – they do not have to agree. Whether they know him or not. Teach them that their bodies are theirs and theirs alone.
Only they can decide who is allowed to approach and who is forbidden.
If the children open up and tell about the unpleasant touch they have experienced, encourage them to tell about it and praise them for their responsible and honest behavior.
Safe sex for teenagers
In adolescence when the interest in the second sex rises, it is time to talk about protected sex.
Explain the consequences of unsafe sex, sexually transmitted diseases, and unwanted pregnancy.
The emotional implications must be emphasized – sex is a matter of choice, of love and of emotion, which is important before consenting to the stage of sexual intercourse in societies. It is important to understand that emotion is a significant part of the physical process of sexual intercourse.
It is time to introduce adolescents to the importance of using contraception and what are the differences between them.
Pills can prevent pregnancy but not sexually transmitted diseases.
A condom, on the other hand, provides dual protection, and it is important to use it at any sexual encounter, whether it is a fixed relationship or an occasional relationship.
It is also important to talk about how to use a condom.
And explain that a condom is a disposable product and should not be reused – emphasize it among adolescents in your home.
Moreover, ask your children whether boys or girls to demand a condom as part of the initial discourse surrounding the decision to start having sex.
Opening the discourse on human sexuality at an early stage helps your child understand their limits to the world, gives them strength and confidence to take control of their bodies, learn what is “prohibited” and what is “permitted” and even see if something bad or unpleasant happens, They can come and tell you.
When children reach puberty, they have had safe sex with them, the use of contraception and their importance, and the existence of sex is an emotional matter in addition to physical. Maintaining openness on the subject teaches us sexuality and healthy relationships.